Jessica is back with more helpful advice just for you. Your first vacation together as a couple is a tricky time. Here’s how to make sure you end up closer — not broken up after traveling with your sweetie.

The first date always brings a lot of questions with it.

Can we make this work? Do we really like the person we had a date with in order to make them our partner? Do we want to have a serious relationship with this person?

Once we give ourselves an answer good enough, things usually settle down and our relationship starts looking more natural and relaxed. This, gradually, leads to the moment when we decide to have the first vacation together as a couple.

Some recent research have shown that usually couples decide to spend their first vacation together only four months after the beginning of their relationship. However, most respondents stated that they wish they had gone on their first vacation with their partner later that they actually did. About 32% of the people, who participated in the research admitted that they have rushed with this decision. A quarter of the respondents aged between 18 and 30 said that their first vacation was perfect, and about 19% described as “average”.

So, what should you know about planning your first vacation and what should you expect?

You must have in mind that your first vacation as a couple may turn out to be a cornerstone of your relationship. Having a trip may be a stressful experience, no matter how many Margaritas you have drunk after your arrival to the destination. And after all, we have all heard at least two stories of people who have broken up with their partners on the way back.

If you don’t want to become the next victim of stress while on vacation with your new partner for the first time, try to follow these steps:

  • Plan your vacation together.

Even if you are tempted to let your significant other take all the decisions by themselves, do not do that, because you may be disappointed. You may not like the destination your partner has chosen, or the hotel, or something else. That is exactly how the problems usually begin. If you want to be left alone just the two of you, you better suggest a quiet and peaceful place to go to. If you both like night life, choose a destination that won’t leave you indifferent to its nightclubs. It doesn’t really matter, as long as both of you are happy with the decision.

  • Be ready for compromises.

If, by any chance, you and your partner disagree on some matters about the destination or the organization of your first vacation as a couple, be ready to make compromises. Try to spend some time doing things that both of you like.

  • Be prepared for some surprises.

If you don’t want to end up being disappointed, you must face the fact that there are many things that are actually beyond your control – nasty weather, delayed flights, etc. So, try to stay calm and relax instead of focusing on any inevitable problems.

The first vacation with your partner as a couple usually is an exciting experience. However, this is also the time when the partners are supposed to spend more time together, which may result in some tension between them.

Gorgeous bespoke luggage makes any trip sweeter, right?

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Here are some tips that will help you release the tension and stress when on a vacation as a couple for the first time:

1. Respect your privacy.

The fact that you have gone on a holiday together doesn’t mean that you have lost your right of privacy. Do not answer your partner’s calls unless they specifically asked you to do it.

2. Don’t be glued to each other.

Do not spend all of your time with your partner while on vacation, because this is how you may unnecessarily “suffocate” each other. Do not insist on sharing every minute with your significant other. Having different interests should not bother you at all, because it is quite normal.

3. Do not try to be at your best.

Do not overdo in your effort to spend a great vacation. Don’t make any preliminary plans and most of all, don’t try to keep everything under your control. Be yourself, act spontaneously, have fun and don’t become hysterical when something does not happen the way you have planned it.

4. Do not be afraid of conflicts.

Do not expect everything to go smoothly and don’t be afraid of conflicts that may arise between you two. It is normal not to share the same opinion on all matters, but try to solve your problems right away. Be ready to make compromises and don’t let a little problem ruin your entire vacation

 

Our featured blogger Jessica Conars is passionate writer and researcher. 

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