This week on Love School for Nerds, Jay and I advise a woman who is trying to decide between two men.
Greetings Sacred Bombshell,
This week Jay and I are giving advice to a woman who wants to know which man she should choose. Both guys have different things to offer her. One is older, more mature, and more married! The other is younger, less money, and single. What to do…what to do?!
Listen in to see what advice Jay and I have for this out of control situation.
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Here’s her original letter:
Dear Abiola and Jay,
I’m involved with 2 guys and i don’t know what to do. i was in a relationship with a married man since 4 years ago. I’m 30, and he’s 46. He swept me off my feet, we have good sex, and he has a great job. He treats me well and i can always depend on him to advice me whenever I’m in trouble. i never knew i would this kind of thing, I mean I hate infidelity. but he convinced me that he’s in a loveless marriage, and he wants to marry me.
Thing is until now every time I bring up the subject, he gets angry and refuses to talk. Then after we’ll make up again and completely forget about that issue. 6 months ago i started to get to know this guy at work, who is 4 years younger than me. At first i didn’t think much about him, just that he’s cute. Then he asked me out and then after we started to be in touch with each other and ended up sleeping together. I don’t see him much as I’ve moved to another city for work.
He’s not the kind of guy that I would be attracted to usually, i mean he’s childish, and doesn’t have the refinement of a mature guy like my older bf does. He makes less money and seems not to know what he wants to do in the future. Only thing is he said he wants to marry me, and already started to save money.
Now i don’t know what to do, the older guy has everything that i want, but he doesn’t seem to want to marry me, the other guy does, but I’m afraid that him being younger and doesn’t have a good job will bring trouble in the future,i don’t want to hurt anyone, and i also don’t want to make the wrong choice