Do single moms need love to give love? Advice video from our Single Mom Expert!

Hello Rockstars,

I want to introduce you to the fabulous vlogger Tinzley! She gives dating advice on her blog “And You Want To See My Feet” and now she’s our “Single Mom Dating Advice Expert” for The Passionista Playbook.

One of my cousins is a young and gorgeous single mom and I see how challenging it is. You’re a mother but you’re still a woman — with all that means. This blog is about living with passion and no one deserves that more than single mothers.

Hey Single Mamas!

I’m Tinzley and I’m here today to share a few tips with you on how to still embrace your hot side even after giving birth and having what some may call a little “baby fat.” Watch the video then read my tips below.

Let’s talk, ladies.

Have you ever said ” I can’t go out anymore until I lose all this weight I gained having the baby” or ” I don’t look good anymore with all this weight gain, nobody wants me?” Let’s face it! You had a baby, you may or may not have been in a relationship before the baby came and now for one reason or another you’re a single mom.

Whatever your story may be, it doesn’t have to end with no longer feeling or embracing your beauty anymore after having a child. I’m certain there are some of you who still feel like a bombshell and who knows you still got it, but for those who may have lost it this is for you.

You are soooo hot!!!

Let’s start with a few things that have kept me going over the years and yes I too had these feelings that I expressed to you above so you don’t stand alone!

I am beautiful.

• Look in the mirror each morning and say I am so beautiful and I know it; then smile. Even if you are single do it because this helps to start building up your confidence!
• Too many times we focus on what we think is wrong with us or no longer pretty about us and fail to acknowledge our beauty that still happens to be there.
• You’re the same chick you were before the baby so what changed? Think about it as it may just be your way of thinking.

Slip on your red dress.

• You remember that song performed by the legendary singer Johnny Gill called ” My My My?” Well ladies even if you can no longer fit your old red dress, go get another one that fits you well and put it on or whatever makes you feel good. How are you going to feel pretty if you never take the time to let it show anymore?
• You are who you think you are! Now look at yourself and say My My My because guess what? HE will be saying it emmm hmmm work it girl!

Share your feelings and don’t hold it all inside.

• Now I’m not suggesting you make a facebook or twitter post that reads, “I feel ugly and unattractive!” But what I am suggesting is for you to talk to someone you feel safe sharing your deepest thoughts with. Could be a longtime friend, and family member or maybe you have to lean to your spiritual side but whoever it may be, just share it so you can hear those positive words you need to hear right this very moment or feel that positive energy you so greatly need.
• This is called reflecting and it’s okay to to this as it helps us heal and get out of that place of insecurity and pain. So share and reflect.

Own it!

• Work those new curves and if you still can’t handle it, slowly work on getting your weight back down which trust me is much easier said than done!
• Keep in mind this is all about embracing the now so the new fuller you can be just as appealing as you think you once were.
• I smile, I walk and let my breasts bounce, I have a cute lil arch in my back and it does attract men so try to add some spunk to your strut and stop looking all bent over and insecure.

Leave the house…

• Finally, get up, get out and show the world your pretty face again. Too many times we start to shut ourselves away from the things and people we once loved and this then causes us to no longer feel valued or wanted. That emotion will play in our heads over and over again until we also start to believe we aren’t valued or wanted. We then start to wonder if it’s because we gained weight or we’re a single mom now who couldn’t keep a man or we’re not as cute as we used to be.
• I’m not saying become an every weekend party animal just out there in the world because that could cause problems, but what I am saying is how can you show that sexy you sitting at home on the couch?
• Reach out to your friends and start to live more social. Take your mind off of the have not’s and start to go get!

Well that’s it for today’s lesson to the single moms and I really hope you found value from this message. I look forward to sharing many future posts to hopefully add value to your daily lives.

Tinzley