Self-Love Coach, Advice Columnist, Media Personality, Transformational Speaker

Hi, I’m Abiola!

So excited that you’re here. Are you ready to finally truly answer your calling and take your vision to the next level?

Welcome home. If you have a big, bold, inspired life calling, then you are in the right place. What is a calling? Having a calling means that you have a message or a mission. My purpose and passion is to help you to activate that mission. I provide soulcare, sacred strategy, intuitive empowerment, and vision birthing for Big Vision Women.

Here, we think outside the cubicle. If you are a committed naysayer, happy with the status quo, have non-visionary aspirations, or have already fulfilled your potential, then I am not the coach for you.

I am known as “The Midwife for Your Inspired Life.” That means that I empower Women With An Inspired Calling to step into their greatness and stop playing small so that they can birth the magic to change their corner of the world. Yeah! How do I do this? I help you dissolve everything that blocks your vision. Together, we slay the dragons, dissolve your fears, remove the barriers, and leap over all of the blocks so that you can answer your calling and change the world. The biggest barrier to you doing what you came to do is you.

That’s right – by loving yourself and changing your life you change the world.

My job is to help extraordinary women create outrageous joy and realize their juiciest lives as an empowerment coach, award-winning writer, media personality, and transformational speaker. My “beat” is: self-worth and self-esteem via healing feminine power, self-love, and your mind-body-spirit.

For the past 15 years my work has been about women getting to be who we really are.  I came to this planet to share the secrets of living with more verve and positive energy than we ever thought possible.This is what my latest book, “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love” is about. Masks off. No more holding back. Let’s do it. Life is not meant to be a passive experience. It’s a passionate experience! If you were looking for a sign THIS IS IT.

I am here for you. Please get in touch.

Love Coach Abiola

 P.S. Please find my professional bios below.

P.P.S. Feel free to look around this site. I created it just for you! You’ll find informative and inspiring videos, blog posts, and podcasts to help you to dissolve barriers in all areas of your life so that you can answer your big calling. If you’re blocked in the areas of self-worth, relationships, or body image, you won’t be able to step into your power. This is your time.  

Self-Worth Coach Abiola Abrams


Frequently Answered Questions:

HOMETOWN: New York City born Goddess of Guyanese Parentage.

NAME: I love my name — but that wasn’t always the case. Abiola is a  Nigerian Yoruba name meaning joy, born on the first or born into wealth depending on who you ask. It is a very common name in my parents’ country, Guyana, South America. Both of my parents claimed to have named me. There are at least 5 people in the United States also named “Abiola Abrams.”

FAMILY HISTORY: I am a fourth generation empowerment specialist. My great-grandmother was a midwife and women’s fertility healer. My mother is a Shakespeare-quoting ex-schoolteacher. Her aunt who raised her ran a de facto Bed and Breakfast known locally as “The White House.” My father is a journalist, minister and Ivy League grad. My sister is brilliant visual artist Damali Abrams and my brother is a professional tech genius. Both of my grandfathers were hard-working farmers with my amazing grandmothers making it work at home. Like “Ma,” my great-granny, I help women give birth to themselves. I stand on the majestic shoulders of all those who came before.

Abiola Abrams MY FAVORITE PROJECTS: Helping women to give birth to their visions is my passion. I have been blessed to create and participate in amazing work but my faves include: my new advice guide “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love,” African Goddess Affirmation Cards, Self-Love Meditation album, my debut novel “Dare: A Love Story;” my award-winning documentary “Knives in My Throat;” my BET Show “The Best Short Film Competition;” coaching on the MTV show “Made,” and of course, my Essence Magazine advice columns.

FAVORITE CAUSE: Depending on availability, I offer bombshell breakthrough coaching scholarships for female veterans of the Iraqi wars. I also am an advocate of Eve Ensler’s VDay movement which aims to stop violence against women and girls worldwide.

COACHING METHODOLOGY: My unique Sacred Breakthrough Coaching 9-step process is based on tapping into feminine power with life-changing healing modalities including: life mapping, guided meditation and visualization, emotional freedom technique, art therapy tools, cognitive behavioral work, spiritual support, and neuro-linguistic work..

EDUCATION: My undergrad degree is from Sarah Lawrence College where I studied sociology (and writing) and I have an Master’s Degree from Vermont College of Fine Arts. I received my life coach certification from the American University of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

PERSONAL BACKGROUND: After a 10 year relationship and a dream wedding, I learned the man I thought was my soulmate no longer wanted a monogamous relationship with me. I was recreating familial patterns of anxiety and infidelity. Anxiety and self-loathing manifested for me in several forms including people pleasing and disordered eating that started in my childhood when my family and I were bullied for not being “real Americans.” The cure for living a stunted half-life was to learn how to release suffering and choose to live as who I really am.

GUILTY PLEASURES: I indulge in all of the juicy joy that life has to offer. For example, I am an 80/20 vegan. That means that I eat completely clean 80% of the time and the other 20% I eat whatever vegetarian treats I want. The goal is to never feel guilt or shame for any of your choices. Yay!

(Please find my professional bio below.)


About America’s Self-Love Coach

"You are Enough!" Abiola Abrams

Abiola Abrams Bio

Our mothers had Dear Abby and we have Dear Abiola, America’s Self-Love Coach.

Abiola Abrams is an award-winning advice columnist, transformational speaker, and certified life coach. As the Midwife for Your Inspired Life, she helps you tap into your purpose and give birth to your calling. Her specialty is inspiring Big Vision Women with soul care and sacred strategy to: look fear in the face, stop playing small, and step into greatness. Abiola’s Hear Me Roar Process is a 9-step mind-body-spirit approach to manifesting personal power for her “spiritpreneurs.”

Abiola is the author of “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love” and the upcoming “Sacred Bombshell Business Bible.” The Essence advice columnist also gives advice on sites like and can been seen spreading her gospel of divine feminine power on TV networks from the Discovery Channel and MTV to the BBC.

As a women’s lifestyle journalist, Abiola hosted shows for networks like BET and is currently the creator of inspirational products such as her Self-Love Meditations Album and African Goddess Affirmation Cards. Her online empowerment programs help women to answer and rock their callings, by turning self-love to self-launch. Abiola Abrams has a Bachelor’s Degree from Sarah Lawrence where she studied in sociology and writing, a Master’s Degree from Vermont College, and a coaching certification from American University of NLP. She is the founder of the women’s empowerment blog and web series and the podcast Spiritpreneur School.
Whether you call her America’s Self-Love Coach, the Midwife for Your Inner Life, or a modern day conjure woman, it’s time to become who we were born to be, and Abiola has the tools to help us get there. She’s the “Olivia Pope” of your personal life. Consider it handled with her personal power process that breaks through fear and the inner voices that keep us playing small.

Lifestyle Expert Abiola Abrams - Spiritual Life Coach, Inspirational Speaker, Wellness Blogger, TV Personality,

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Abiola’s Longer Bio… More

Sacred breakthrough coach, speaker, and writer Abiola Abrams was born to empower women to transform their lives. The award-winning author of “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love” gives advice and produces media about self-worth, healthy relationships, and how to live with joy and passion. Abiola has been a featured columnist on prominent sites from Essence to

In addition, Abiola is a recurring self-esteem, love, and lifestyle guru on talk shows like the CW Network’s “Bill Cunningham Show” and documentary TV like MTV’s “Made.” Black Enterprise Magazine named her self-development blog which hosts her award-winning web series, one of the top African American lifestyle blogs. She also reported on celebrity relationships and personal issues as a BBC Radio entertainment correspondent.

Abiola gives keynote speeches on empowerment at schools and conferences. Abiola has also hosted lifestyle TV shows on networks from BET to NBC. As a social experiment the lifestyle journalist went undercover to star as “Miss Picky” on VH1 matchmaker “reality” series “Tough Love.” As a part of her ongoing safe sex education initiative she directed the award-winning and critically acclaimed feminist erotica art film, “Afrodite Superstar.” Her social issues short films and documentaries about race, gender and relationships have been shown in festivals, museums and universities from Berlin to New York City. She created and curated the Chashama Gallery Manhattan exhibit “Hos, Putas and Dragon Ladies: Our Sexuality Remixed,” “The Goddess Factory” at Rush Arts and VDay’s “Until the Violence Stops Film Festival” at the Museum of The City of NY and the Museum of TV and Radio.

“Dare” (Simon & Schuster), a hip hop love story, Abiola’s popular debut novel was taught at Amherst College. Her provocative writing has been published in anthologies such as Behind the Bedroom Door, Dirty Words, Say Word: Voices from Hip Hop Theater and Eve Ensler’s A Memory, A Monologue, A Rant and A Prayer. Abiola talks dating, self-worth and lifestyle in documentaries such as Michael Baisden’s “Do Women Know What They Want?,” Therese Shechter’s “How to Lose Your Virginity” and “In Our Heads About Our Own Hair” directed by Hemanset Angaza and PBS-funded “Black Folks Don’t.

Abiola Abrams is a certified NLP life wellness coach, has a BA from Sarah Lawrence and an MFA from Vermont College of Fine Arts. Abiola’s first professional project after college was writing and starring in “Goddess City,” the first recognized hip hop theater play. The show covered women’s issues around love and self-esteem and won her Cosmopolitan Magazine‘s Fun, Fearless, Female Award. Abiola’s been living juicy and inviting her sisters along ever since. Are you in?

Spiritual Life Coaches Gabby Bernstein and Abiola Abrams

Sacred Bombshell Platform

Abiola’s healing advice and lifestyle guide, “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love,” is the winner of the African American Literary Award for Best in Self-Help Book. The other esteemed nominees in the category included: Iyanla Vanzant, Russell Simmons, and Bishop T.D. Jakes.


African American Literary Awards Self-Help BooksAbiola has worked her magic as:

  • A featured Love and Lifestyle Advice Columnist on Essence,  Yahoo Shine, Mommy Noire and gURL plus online dating sites like
  • An empowerment speaker at universities and conferences such as “NYC Women’s Empowerment Summit,” “Single In Stilettos,” “Good Vibrations Summit,” Al Sharpton’s National Action Network, and “Flatbush AIDS Day“; Host of live shows like “The Reel Sisters of the Diaspora Film Festival.”
  • Creative Director & Editor of this award-winning lifestyle site and Host /Producer of her award-winning lifestyle web talk show and advice vlogs;
  • Featured expert on relationships, self-esteem and lifestyle in documentaries.
  • A BBC Radio Entertainment Correspondent speaking about love and life;
  • Over 2 million advice “clients” served with 2,000,000+ views on her YouTube Advice Channel;
  • PLUS She was named one of the “Top 10 Women Teaching About Sex” by Clutch Magazine, “Top 20 Black Bloggers” by Black Enterprise Magazine, chosen “Dating Expert to Know” by and named a “Top 10 Safe Sex Blog” by Get Tested.