Is fear at the center of your love life? Advice! Let’s talk about fear, my rockstars. There are two emotions, love and fear — and you deserve love, right? Say it with me… Good!  I called on a fear expert to share his expert tips on getting the love you deserve.

How to Prevent Fear from Affecting Your Love Life

by America’s Fear Expert Stan Popovich

Many people allow fear to become a factor in their relationships. Sometimes that fear can overwhelm a person to the point that it interferes with their relationships.

Here’s how not to let fear be a factor in your relationships!

1. Determine if you really want to be in a relationship.

Do you want to be in a relationship or do you prefer to be by yourself? If you do, then what type of relationship do you want to be in? You need to determine what works best for you and what makes you happy.

2. Do not be afraid of being alone.

Some people get into a relationship to avoid being alone. This is not a good idea because you are forcing something that may just not work out in the long run. We will all have to spend some time alone in our lives. Don’t let loneliness become an issue in your relationships.

3. Listen to your heart.

It is fine to get advice from your friends, however you are the one who has to decide if you want to remain in your current relationship. Do what is best for you and the person your involved with. Don’t make decisions on what other people want.

4. Take advantage of the help that is available around you.

Talk to a professional who can help you manage your fears and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem.  By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future.  Remember that it never hurts to ask for help.

5. Learn to manage your negative thoughts. 

When you are fearful, you will tend to think of negative things. When this happens remind yourself that worry exaggerates the problems you have and that things will get better. Try to avoid negative thoughts and remain positive.

6. Give yourself time.

Do not feel pressured into getting into a relationship. It takes two people to make a relationship work. If you are not sure what to do, then tell your  significant other that you need some time to think. Don’t rush into something that you might regret.

7. Learn to take it one day at a time.

Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems.

8. Worrying will make things worse.

All the worrying in the world will not change anything. All you can do is to do your best each day, keep hope alive and when something does happen, take it in stride.  If you still have trouble managing your anxiety of the future then talking to a counselor or clergyman can be of great help. There are ways to help manage your fear and all it takes is some effort to find those answers.

9. Focus on the facts of your situation and not your thoughts.

Focus on the facts of your current situation. Determine what about your current relationship makes you fearful. Make a list of things that make your nervous or fearful and then focus on those ways that will reduce your fears and anxieties. Again, if you need help, talk to a professional.

10. Be smart in how you deal with your fears and anxieties.

Do not try to tackle everything all at once. When facing a current or upcoming task that overwhelms you with a lot of anxiety, break the task into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success.

11. Learn from your mistakes in your past relationships.

It takes practice and a lot of effort to maintain a successful relationship. Try to learn what you did right and what you need to improve on. If you still have trouble, then talk to a professional who can give you additional advice.

12. There are always other options. 

You may feel lost and confused but the answers to your specific problems are out there. The key is that you have to find the answers. The answers to your problem will not come to you. As mentioned before, the first step in finding the solution to your problem is to seek help from a qualified professional!