Here is a rule of thumb that will help you (and me!)

If you believe that something is good, and you do it, it benefits you. If you believe that something is bad, and you do it, it is a very detrimental experience. There is nothing that you can do that is worse for yourself than to do something that you believe is inappropriate, so get clear and happy whichever choice you make, because it is your contradiction that causes a majority of the contradiction in vibration.

Make a decision about what you want, focus your attention there, and find the feeling-place of it — and you are there instantly. There is no reason for you to suffer or struggle your way to or through anything.

Ask and It Is Given, p. 291