"Women will change the world!"

Inspirational, Transformational, Motivational Speaker


Thanks for connecting.

They say that our moms had “Dear Abby” and we have “Dear Abiola.”

I say that as the Midwife for Your Inspired Life, my calling is to help you to tune into your calling, using sacred practices, soulcare, skills, and strategy. I do this as an empowerment coach, speaker, and award-winning writer.

As a motivational, inspirational, transformational speaker and empowerment coach, I have given keynote addresses at New York University, Howard University and Washington State University; created and moderated panels and workshops at the Essence Festival New Orleans, Museum of the City of New York and New School for Social Research; curated a feminist film festival for VDay and an empowerment exhibit for the Chashama Gallery; mentored girls and women for Hip Hop for Health; hosted the African American Women in Film and African American Literary Awards and presented workshops at the Museum of TV and Radio and University of Northern Colorado.

And that’s just for starters.

I look forward to speaking with your group about living an empowered life.

I am here for you. Please get in touch.

Passionately yours,

P.S. Reach out to my team at [email protected] so that I can customize a special program for your group.

Prepare Your Audience

Abiola’s talks include an interactive blend of soulcare, skills and strategy — with a healthy dose of activism and inspirational storytelling. Audiences of all ages, cultures and genders have been moved to tears, laughter and ACTION all the way.

Ready to Empower Your Group?
For speaking engagements, contact Abiola’s speakers’ bureau:

American Program Bureau, Inc.
313 Washington Street, Suite 225
Newton, MA 02458

Visit APB’s speakers bureau contact page to request Abiola’s availability.

OR Just email: business at abiolaabrams.com


Abiola's Key Personal & Professional Empowerment Topics

Topics Include:

  • Overcoming Fear

  • Self-Love, Self-Esteem, Self-Acceptance

  • Finding Your Voice, Answering Your Calling

  • Rock Your Business, Your Way

  • Healing Love, Healing Relationships

  • Your Body Image Issues: Emotional Healing

  • Race & Gender Issues: Healing the Wounds

  • This Is What A Feminist Looks Like

  • Sacred & Brazen! Feminine Power

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Previous Inspirational Talks

SELECT PAST KEY TALKS include: the Gratitude and Trust Summit, Essence Festival New Orleans, Release the Chains Virginia, Single in Stilettos NYC, NYU Keynote Speech, hosting the African American Literary Awards, Visions & Visionaries Panel in Toronto, Henry Street School of International Studies UN Anniversary Speech, The New School for Social Research, Hip Hop for Health, Barnes and Noble…

PLUS: Washington State University, University of Northern Colorado, Howard University, National Action Network, Women in Cinema, Pratt University, VIDA Youth Center, University of New Hampshire, Sarah Lawrence College, Niger-Delta Academy, RUSH Arts Gallery, The Cambridge School, Diversity Film Workshop, Rotunda Gallery, The Schomburg Center, Good for Her Toronto, National Black Theater Festival, The Bronx Academy of Letters, Henry Street School for International Studies, The Beacon Program, Queens Center Library & many more.

Frequently Answered Questions

What’s your hometown? I am a New York City born goddess of Guyanese, South American Parentage.

What’s the story of your family? I am a fourth generation empowerment specialist. My great-grandmother was a midwife and women’s fertility healer. My mother is a Shakespeare-quoting ex-schoolteacher. Her aunt who raised her ran a de facto Bed and Breakfast known locally as “The White House.” My father is a journalist, minister and Ivy League grad. My sister is brilliant visual artist Damali Abrams and my brother is a professional tech genius. Both of my grandfathers were hard-working farmers with my amazing grandmothers making it work at home. Like “Ma,” my great-granny, I help women give birth to themselves. I stand on the majestic shoulders of all those who came before.

What is your favorite cause? Depending on availability, I offer bombshell breakthrough coaching scholarships for female veterans of the Iraqi wars. I also am an advocate of Eve Ensler’s VDay movement which aims to stop violence against women and girls worldwide.

What is your educational background? My undergrad degree is from Sarah Lawrence College where I studied sociology (and writing) and I have an Master’s Degree from Vermont College of Fine Arts. I received my life coach certification from the American University of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

Any guilty pleasures? I indulge in all of the juicy joy that life has to offer. For example, I am an 80/20 vegan. That means that I eat completely clean 80% of the time and the other 20% I eat whatever vegetarian treats I want. The goal is to never feel guilt or shame for any of your choices. Yay!

What is the story with your name? I love my name — but that wasn’t always the case. Abiola is a Nigerian Yoruba name meaning joy, born on the first or born into wealth depending on who you ask. It is a very common name in my parents’ country, Guyana, South America. Both of my parents claimed to have named me. There are at least 5 people in the United States also named “Abiola Abrams.”

What are your favorite projects that you’ve done? Helping women to give birth to their visions is my passion. I have been blessed to create and participate in amazing work but my faves include: my new advice guide “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love,” African Goddess Affirmation Cards, Self-Love Meditation album, my debut novel “Dare: A Love Story;” my award-winning documentary “Knives in My Throat;” my BET Show “The Best Short Film Competition;” coaching on the MTV show “Made,” and of course, my Essence Magazine advice columns.

What is your coaching methodology? My unique Sacred Breakthrough Coaching 9-step process is based on tapping into feminine power with life-changing healing modalities including: life mapping, guided meditation and visualization, emotional freedom technique, art therapy tools, cognitive behavioral work, spiritual support, and neuro-linguistic work..

What is your personal story? After a 10 year relationship and a dream wedding, I learned the man I thought was my soulmate no longer wanted a monogamous relationship with me. I was recreating familial patterns of anxiety and infidelity. Anxiety and self-loathing manifested for me in several forms including people pleasing and disordered eating that started in my childhood when my family and I were bullied for not being “real Americans.” The cure for living a stunted half-life was to learn how to release suffering and choose to live as who I really am.

Abiola's Longer Bio

Sacred breakthrough coach, speaker, and writer Abiola Abrams was born to empower women to transform their lives. The award-winning author of “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love” gives advice and produces media about self-worth, healthy relationships, and how to live with joy and passion. Abiola has been a featured columnist on prominent sites from Essence to Match.com.

In addition, Abiola is a recurring self-esteem, love, and lifestyle guru on talk shows like the CW Network’s “Bill Cunningham Show” and documentary TV like MTV’s “Made.” Black Enterprise Magazine named her self-development blog which hosts her award-winning web series, one of the top African American lifestyle blogs. She also reported on celebrity relationships and personal issues as a BBC Radio entertainment correspondent.

Abiola gives keynote speeches on empowerment at schools and conferences. Abiola has also hosted lifestyle TV shows on networks from BET to NBC. As a social experiment the lifestyle journalist went undercover to star as “Miss Picky” on VH1 matchmaker “reality” series “Tough Love.” As a part of her ongoing safe sex education initiative she directed the award-winning and critically acclaimed feminist erotica art film, “Afrodite Superstar.” Her social issues short films and documentaries about race, gender and relationships have been shown in festivals, museums and universities from Berlin to New York City. She created and curated the Chashama Gallery Manhattan exhibit “Hos, Putas and Dragon Ladies: Our Sexuality Remixed,” “The Goddess Factory” at Rush Arts and VDay’s “Until the Violence Stops Film Festival” at the Museum of The City of NY and the Museum of TV and Radio.

“Dare” (Simon & Schuster), a hip hop love story, Abiola’s popular debut novel was taught at Amherst College. Her provocative writing has been published in anthologies such as Behind the Bedroom Door, Dirty Words, Say Word: Voices from Hip Hop Theater and Eve Ensler’s A Memory, A Monologue, A Rant and A Prayer. Abiola talks dating, self-worth and lifestyle in documentaries such as Michael Baisden’s “Do Women Know What They Want?,” Therese Shechter’s “How to Lose Your Virginity” and “In Our Heads About Our Own Hair” directed by Hemanset Angaza and PBS-funded “Black Folks Don’t.

Abiola Abrams is a certified NLP life wellness coach, has a BA from Sarah Lawrence and an MFA from Vermont College of Fine Arts. Abiola’s first professional project after college was writing and starring in “Goddess City,” the first recognized hip hop theater play. The show covered women’s issues around love and self-esteem and won her Cosmopolitan Magazine‘s Fun, Fearless, Female Award. Abiola’s been living juicy and inviting her sisters along ever since. Are you in?


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