A well balanced sacred bombshell feels empowered in every aspect of her life… from the boudoir to the boardroom.
Bonus: Be sure to watch my sacred flirting video workshop after the jump…
Dear Abiola,
Can you share four actions women can take to feel their sexiest before a new year starts?
Yes! In “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love,” I refer to this as boosting your I.Q. – your irresistibility quotient. Here’s how:
1. Take a sexy dance class just for you.
Moving our bodies makes us feel good about ourselves. Not only do we get the feel-good endorphins going, but moving our hips taps directly into our yin feminine energy. Try a class like burlesque, pole fitness, belly dancing, twerking, stiletto workouts, or even hula hooping. You will feel sexy and in control of your own beautiful body. This movement opens your sacral chakra, which sounds fancy but is just your creative and sexual energy center. Move it or lose it rings true here.
2. Do a sexy boudoir shoot just for you.
A boudoir shoot is a great way to step into your sacred bombshell energy. Women are reclaiming their sexy by doing these shoots for big birthdays, milestone events, and even after dealing with illness. You can wear lingerie, do a classy and artistic nude shoot, or be fully clothed and evoke a historical goddess like Josephine Baker or Billie Holiday. Hire a professional photographer or ask your best friend to shoot for you. We are beautiful and stunningly perfect with our imperfections. Let’s celebrate that!
3. Indulge in Cleopatra’s bath.
The idea of women taking a bath to reconnect with ourselves can seem like such a cliche, but rarely do we ever take this time. Let’s one up the standard bubble bath with Cleopatra’s bath. The Egyptian queen knew a thing or two about seduction and feeling sexy. As a bonus, the ingredients in my version of Cleo’s bath with leave your skin silky smooth. Here’s the recipe: Full fat milk, honey, rose oil, rose petals, virgin coconut oil, and cinnamon. Bonus: Make this a sensual experience with scented candles. Sanskrit is great but I invite women to meditate simply by chanting the word “love.” Maybe you can read or write an erotic story or poem while in the bath.
4. Step up your undergarments game.
Isn’t it time for an upgrade? Shop Your Closet and toss whatever makes you feel like a frump. Invest in adult lingerie. Lose the granny panties – even if you may be a granny. Go for g-strings if that floats your boat, but you can also do sexy baby dolls, boyshorts, camis and lace undies. What are you sleeping in? Make sure that whatever touches your skin makes you feel like a goddess or sacred bombshell.
Abiola Abrams is the author of “The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love” and the ESSENCE Intimacy Intervention advice columnist.
